June 07, 2017


Your attitude to life effects everything about who you are.

Are you a glass half full or glass half empty kinda person? A starting point if ever there was one because a gentleman has a positive attitude and will always see the positive side of things. You need to have a good attitude to bring that out in other people around you. It also can’t be faked and has to be authentic. Precisely why you can’t “act” at being a gentleman — and go through the motions hoping for the best. It will come across exactly as it is: forced.

So maybe you do have a positive can-do attitude. Great. You can work with that. Maybe you don’t. That too can be worked on. A gentleman — anyone is a work in progress. Refining who you can be by working on continuous improvement in
all aspects of life: mental, emotional,
financial, physical, sexual, social, and spiritual. How is this achieved practically? By any means that works for you. You could seek help for aspects of life you cannot easily change yourself; you could take courses, or get a personal trainer at the gym. Read. It’s amazing just how much information is available for us to pick and choose from. Want to know all about how to succeed in a business startup? Just type that in Google, or look at how many books available on the topic. Whatever works for you.

A gentleman can be seen as being: self-aware and introspective, mature, mentally competent, worldly and knowledgeable, athletic and fit, cool and unflappable, in control of his finances, in the moment, a competent-to-exceptional lover, with
a breadth and depth of friendships and relationships, and with a deep perspective on life, and the world around him. A gentleman is desired because he is desirable.

Part of the change in mindset is realizing that life is essentially about service to others, not purely about serving yourself. It’s not merely about etiquette or opening the doors for people, but a deep underlying conviction of doing the right and positive thing. Nor are we talking about being completely selfless and forgetting your own needs, but when you make effort to enrich the lives of those around you, then you’ll find the lives of others will improve your own. If you think about it in terms of the natural world then remember that nature provides resources in direct proportion to the usefulness an element plays in the ecosystem. If a man plays a necessary role in in the world around him, then resources too will flow his way. A gentleman is above all — useful. Be useful.